The MB brings that the Gra says that the chazzan should indeed say “yiheyu l’ratzon” at the end of chazaras hashatz. Rav Malinowitz adds that if one does so, care should be taken to say the words carefully, not to slur or swallow them.
L’kovod the Blass Aufrauf
The minhag to throw candies and the like at, or in front of, the chosson on the Shabbos before the wedding, as he gets his Aliyah, is a common minhag brought in Shulchan Aruch. It is a sign of joy, berachah, and simchah.
Medrash Talpiyos (Anaf Chasan V’kallah) says that the reason that he gets an Aliyah on the Shabbos before his wedding is because “chasan domeh l’melech” – a groom is compared to a king, and a king must have two sifrei Torah, so too a chasan gets one Aliyah before and one Aliyah after his wedding. Rav Shlomo Zalman in Halichos Shlomo (Moadim 2:251-252) offers an idea based on the Gemara Nedarim, which says that the reason that the Beis Hamikdash was destroyed is because we did not have proper kavod hatorah. So, the greatest way to give proper kavod hatorah is to learn right before an important time in our lives. Therefore, prior to his wedding, the chasan gets an Aliyah and starts his simcha off with Torah. Sifrey Chabad say that it is a siman tov for raising children who will learn Torah and lift up the world. Sefer Hamatamim quoted in Nitey Gavriel (Hilchos Nisuin) writes that the reason that a chasan gets one Aliyah before and after his wedding is in order that he appreciate the difference between the Torah learned before and after his wedding. Chazal tell us that “hasharuy b’lo isha , sharuy b’lo Torah”. The Torah he learns has new meaning when he is married.
L’kovod the Sonnenberg-grandchild bris
(on Shabbos,IYH,right after davening):
The person at the b’ris making the beracha “borei pri hagofen” (or, by the b’ris this Shabbos, “borei p’ri hagefen”) can have in mind to be yotzei Kiddush with that berachah. But since Kiddush requires b’mokom seudah, he must ASAP eat a kazayis of cake, or at last drink another reviis wine.
Anyone listening can also be yotzei Kiddush (we will be announcing that the mevarech should have in mind to be motzie whoever wants to be yotzei in Kiddush), provided that they too eat a kazayis cake or have a reviis wine asap.
Minchah, Seudah Shlishis, on Shabbos Erev Yom Tov
When Shabbos is erev Yom Tov, as is now coming up, seudah shlishis/mincha and Hilchos Yom Tov can conflict. There are a few lechatchilahs (initially the ideal way to do things) which can conflict, and one has to plan beforehand and decide.
- It is better not to eat a seudah erev Yom Tov once the “tenth-hour” is reached. (4:05 pm this year)
- It is better to eat seudah shlishis after one davens Minchah
After the tenth hour, one may eat seudah shlishis on erev Yom Tov, if necessary, but must be careful not to eat a “large seudah” and to eat less bread than usual. One may certainly eat seudah shlishis before Minchah, if necessary.
The Shul will be having its usual 1:20 pm Minchah. That allows one to daven Minchah, and then eat seudah shlishis whenever one wants, even before 4:05 .
But many people feel rushed in their second seudah if they try to make the 1:20 Minchah.
We didn’t schedule a, say, 2:30pm Minchah, feeling that is a difficult time for people.
So we scheduled a 5:30pm Minchah, figuring that that allows for an almost-normal AuB; and it is still early enough to not really have a problem of encroaching on the nighttime Yom Tov seudah (although it is after the lechatchilah zeman).
One may, of course, choose to eat seudah shlishis before Minchah. Probably better to eat seudah shlishis before Minchah, and to eat it before 4:05pm.
As of this writing, we will also be having a pre-sheki’ah Minchah, at 7:10 pm .Please check the bulletin if that remained in place.
Theoretically, one can b’di’eved eat a small seudah shlishis up till sheki’ah; but after sheki’ah, even if one is in the middle of their seudah and is used to continuing after sheki’ah on a Motzei Shabbos; be aware that Kiddush (of Yom Tov ) is different than Havdalah, and thus one must stop eating at shekiah, until one makes Kiddush.
The concluding words in yishtabach are:
Melech The King
Chei ha’olamim Lifegiver of the worlds
So it is read: “melech, ail, chei ha’olamim”
Any other grouping is wrong and meaningless.